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Why millennials are leaving the church

Rachel Held Evans

Rachel Held Evans

Source: CNN Belief Blog

By Rachel Held Evans, Special to CNN

(CNN)  At 32, I barely qualify as a millennial.

I wrote my first essay with a pen and paper, but by the time I graduated from college, I owned a cell phone and used Google as a verb.

I still remember the home phone numbers of my old high school friends, but don’t ask me to recite my husband’s without checking my contacts first.

I own mix tapes that include selections from Nirvana and Pearl Jam, but I’ve never planned a trip without Travelocity.

Despite having one foot in Generation X, I tend to identify most strongly with the attitudes and the ethos of the millennial generation, and because of this, I’m often asked to speak to my fellow evangelical leaders about why millennials are leaving the church.

Armed with the latest surveys, along with personal testimonies from friends and readers, I explain how young adults perceive evangelical Christianity to be too political, too exclusive, old-fashioned, unconcerned with social justice and hostile to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.

I point to research that shows young evangelicals often feel they have to choose between their intellectual integrity and their faith, between science and Christianity, between compassion and holiness.

I talk about how the evangelical obsession with sex can make Christian living seem like little more than sticking to a list of rules, and how millennials long for faith communities in which they are safe asking tough questions and wrestling with doubt.

Invariably, after I’ve finished my presentation and opened the floor to questions, a pastor raises his hand and says, “So what you’re saying is we need hipper worship bands. …”

And I proceed to bang my head against the podium.

Time and again, the assumption among Christian leaders, and evangelical leaders in particular, is that the key to drawing twenty-somethings back to church is simply to make a few style updates  edgier music, more casual services, a coffee shop in the fellowship hall, a pastor who wears skinny jeans, an updated Web site that includes online giving.

But here’s the thing: Having been advertised to our whole lives, we millennials have highly sensitive BS meters, and we’re not easily impressed with consumerism or performances.

In fact, I would argue that church-as-performance is just one more thing driving us away from the church, and evangelicalism in particular.

Many of us, myself included, are finding ourselves increasingly drawn to high church traditions  Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, the Episcopal Church, etc. precisely because the ancient forms of liturgy seem so unpretentious, so unconcerned with being “cool,” and we find that refreshingly authentic.

What millennials really want from the church is not a change in style but a change in substance.

We want an end to the culture wars. We want a truce between science and faith. We want to be known for what we stand for, not what we are against.

We want to ask questions that don’t have predetermined answers.

We want churches that emphasize an allegiance to the kingdom of God over an allegiance to a single political party or a single nation.

We want our LGBT friends to feel truly welcome in our faith communities.

We want to be challenged to live lives of holiness, not only when it comes to sex, but also when it comes to living simply, caring for the poor and oppressed, pursuing reconciliation, engaging in creation care and becoming peacemakers.

You can’t hand us a latte and then go about business as usual and expect us to stick around. We’re not leaving the church because we don’t find the cool factor there; we’re leaving the church because we don’t find Jesus there.

Like every generation before ours and every generation after, deep down, we long for Jesus.

Now these trends are obviously true not only for millennials but also for many folks from other generations. Whenever I write about this topic, I hear from forty-somethings and grandmothers, Generation Xers and retirees, who send me messages in all caps that read “ME TOO!” So I don’t want to portray the divide as wider than it is.

But I would encourage church leaders eager to win millennials back to sit down and really talk with them about what they’re looking for and what they would like to contribute to a faith community.

Their answers might surprise you.

Rachel Held Evans is the author of “Evolving in Monkey Town” and “A Year of Biblical Womanhood.” She blogs at rachelheldevans.com. The views expressed in this column belong to Rachel Held Evans.

The Editors – CNN Belief Blog

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  1. danny bramwell on

    If you are looking for a communion that will be tolerant of undoing Christian ethics pertaining to sex you most likely will not find either Roman Catholicism or Eastern Orthodoxy to accommodating to your agenda. Anglicans on the other hand will no doubt embrace you and your social causes

  2. If “millennials” are coming to the Church with unrealistic expectations, they won’t be here long. You can certainly ask tough questions, but don’t be surprised when you hear tough answers that were “predetermined” 2000 years ago. You can certainly “come as you are” but don’t expect to stay that way. Christ requires repentance and CHANGE, not mere “acceptance”. And that change is in ourselves to suit the Church, not changing the Church to suit ourselves.

  3. Fr. Hans Jacobse on

    I think both commentators missed the point of the article. Millennials value authenticity. This is a generation that has been marketed to since they day they were born and can smell insincerity a mile away. One of the problems we Orthodox have in many parishes is that we fight. Millennials see this and ask themsleves, “What’s the point?” Then they leave.

    Many Millenials are looking for authentic religion but authenticity is first defined for them as relationship. They reason differently than Boomers. Truth is not a propositional enterprise, not at first anyway and while the older generation might be swayed by the authority of the person relating the truth, Millennials by and large are not. This is especially true if corruption or hypocrisy are openly tolerated. They won’t necessary judge the sinner, but they wont join up in his enterprise either.

    Truth is largely determined through feeling. If something is true, it must “feel” true before it is believed. Boomers have trouble with this but it exists because Millennials have heard for years that things were true that did not turn out to be true at all. It is not that truth is subjective. Rather, the barometer by which a Millennial measures what is true or not is subjective, ie: something must feel true in order to be true.

    People confuse this process with moral relativism. Many Millennials are not moral relativists. However, since the criteria for determining what is and is not true is a subjective enterprise, most conclude that they cannot challenge what another person feels is true.

    It is not that Millennials necessary agree with a person who hold views different than their own or that they believe two different truths can exist at the same time. Instead, Millennials don’t have the confidence or reasons to defend what they believe when challenged by contrary truth claims.

    As a result Millenials are 1) reluctant to challenge others who hold different beliefs, and 2) often perceive that challenge as an attack on the person holding them. That’s why the author writes for example, “We want our LGBT friends to feel truly welcome in our faith communities.”

    Millennials are not joiners. They prefer instead the authentic experience. This means that our parishes, if Millenials do indeed seek to make it their home, have to live the Gospel in greater measure than we have. They will come to Church if they find Christ there, and they will only find Christ if the present members practice the Second Commandment: Love your neighbor as yourself. If they see this and experience it (even imperfectly), we will see more Millennials come into the Church rather than leave it.

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